You are not trying to win. You are trying to get your children from one home to the other with as little friction as possible, and to be able to show what happened if it is ever questioned. This is what the app gives each of you.
A conversation between the two of you, in order, with the time sent and the time read. Messages cannot be changed or removed afterwards, by you or by the other parent. If you tend to write in the heat of the moment, the optional wording helper suggests a calmer version before you send; you can use it, change it or ignore it.
Add handovers, contact days, school events and holidays. If you need to change something, tick “ask the other parent to confirm”. They reply Yes or No and the answer is recorded against the entry.
Log a cost for school, clubs, clothing or medical needs, say what share is yours, and the other parent can agree or dispute it. A running balance shows who owes whom for everything agreed but not yet paid. On the Complete plan you can attach a receipt to each expense.
Note each call with the children: who, when, how long, and anything worth remembering. The log records details only. It does not record audio, and if you record a call yourself you should have everyone’s agreement first.
Medical details, GP and dentist, school contacts, insurance, emergency contacts and where important documents are kept. Both parents see it, so neither has to ask the other for a phone number at the wrong moment.
Only you can read it. It is for writing down what happened, in plain facts, close to the time. It is not included in the shared record or the exports.
A dated record of messages, calendar, calls, expenses and information entries, ready to print or save as a PDF, plus CSV files for each section. Useful for a solicitor, a mediator, or a conversation with a family court adviser.
Add your solicitor to your case at no extra cost. They can read your record and message you inside the app. If they already use OurChildrens for another client, just enter the email they registered with.
Plus (£7.99) adds children profiles, a weekly-pattern calendar tool, the private journal, handover check-in notes, the wording helper and a 100 MB document vault. Complete (£12.99) adds receipts on expenses, records for any date range, a private calendar link for relatives, a 500 MB vault and priority email support. See the full comparison.
Every plan includes a plain-English guide to the main steps after separation in England and Wales, with links to GOV.UK, Cafcass, mediation and free advice. Read it free.
You each have your own login and your own plan. You cannot see what the other parent pays, and they cannot see your private journal.
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